Proposing to your partner is going to be one of the biggest days of both your lives, excluding your wedding day of course. But if you want to make it to your wedding day, then you need to get it right. We aren’t saying it has to be perfect, but we can help you to avoid five big mistakes and hopefully get your partner to say yes!
Not Waiting For The Right Moment
Nerves can often lead to rushed and incorrectly timed proposals. You don’t want to be Chandler from Friends, proposing because he’s sorry! Instead remain calm, breath and speak slowly. Remember, your future life partner is going to be telling the story of ‘how you proposed’ for the rest of their life, do you want slow romance or rushed comedy?
Contingencies can happen. Maybe you planned to propose over a romantic meal and your partner had a little too much to drink? Then hold on, there will be other dinners and better ways of proposing that you’ll both remember!
Proposing In Front Of An Audience
Now this will differ from partner to partner as to whether or not they want their engagement to be an open event. However, research suggests that proposing in front of an audience is one of the biggest blunders you can make. If you make your partner feel like they’re on stage, it’s likely they’re going to be very nervous and potentially even get stage fright. You may want to consider what type of person your partner is and whether this is something they’d love or loathe.
Imagine, you’re walking down a golden, sandy beach at sunset, the gentle waves splash against the shore as the sun begins to blend into the ocean, then you get down on one knee and ask the question. Your partner waits expectantly for that little box to appear and is instead left slightly miffed off at the usual last-minute approach to life. Asking empty-handed has been voted as the number one faux pas when it comes to engagements, so you need to make sure you have a ring ready to present. If you’re nervous that they won’t like the ring that you’ve got them, use a family heirloom or a simple band and go shopping at a later date together.
Jumping The Gun
The honeymoon period varies from couple to couple, and this is definitely a stage we strongly suggest for you not to propose within. No matter how perfect you think they may be, hold off from proposing until you really know that person inside and out. Infatuation is not the same as love, and you’ll need to have conquered some relationship milestones before you’re ready to pop the question. You don’t want to be married after a few weeks after knowing each other and then start to hate each other’s guts.
Blabbing About The Plan
The only people you should be telling about your proposal are us here at Captured Proposals and your partner’s parents (always seek permission and get their blessing!). It’s very easy to get carried away telling everyone, but it only takes that one forgetful Uncle to blow your cover! Your partner may even be really upset that she was the last to know, instead of one of the first few.