Though keeping the planned proposal a secret may be your biggest worry right now, you’re also going to need to get a ring, and hopefully a ring that fits! This is a huge worry amongst lots of future proposers but there are actually lots of ways you can find out your partner’s ring size without them suspecting a thing.
Use One Of Their Other Rings For Approximation
If you’re going to do this, make sure that your partner is out of the house, otherwise, you will risk blowing your cover! It’s one of the oldest tricks in the book. Once you’ve got your ring, there are then a few things that you can do:
- Take it Straight To The Jewellers To Be Measured: Only do this if you have plenty of time, or know that your partner won’t notice that their ring is gone. Make sure that know the finger that your partner wears the ring on, as obviously a pinky ring and an index finger ring are going to have very different measurements. Additionally, their dominant hand may be slightly larger than their other hand – you will need to consider everything! If you can get all this information to your jeweller, they will be able to make an approximate estimation to the size that their engagement ring needs to be.
- Order a ring sizer online: You can find ring sizers on many jewellery sites, such as H Samuel which are completely free and downloadable.
- Use the old-fashioned pen and paper: To document your partner’s ring size, simply draw around it onto a piece of paper. This is particularly helpful if you’re in a rush to get the size or know your partner has prying eyes! Then take the piece of paper into a jeweller to be assessed and measured.
Ask A Friend
If your partner doesn’t normally wear rings, or you know it would be too difficult to do secretly, ask one of their friends for some help, through the following ways.
- Get an already engaged (or married) friend of your partners to suggest that they ‘try it on’, perhaps amongst a group to make it seem less obvious! From this, you will be able to judge whether your partner needs a smaller or larger ring, based on the friend’s ring size.
- Get another friend to take your partner engagement ring shopping (for themselves, not your partner) and try to get them involved in the trying-on part!
- Get your partners best friend to just ask for their ring size. To make it less obvious, they could say they wanted to get them a ring for their birthday (or a closer celebration)
Just Be Honest And Ask Your Partner
Depending on your relationship, your best bet may be to ask your partner yourself. Nowadays, couples are more open to discussing getting engaged with each other. Or you could just pass it off as a birthday or Christmas present that you are thinking of getting for your partner.
And most importantly, try not to stress out! Rings can always be re-sized, just try to keep it on the bigger size so that there is more material to work with. And most importantly, have fun!